How To Be Content With Yourself

Do you want to feel happier being who you are and with what you have?

Many people think being happy means having a lot of nice things, but true happiness often comes from feeling content with what you have.

Contentment means being okay with your life as it is right now. It means feeling peace inside, even when life is hard.

If you are not content with yourself, no amount of money or luxury item will fill that void and empty feeling inside.

But here’s the good news: You can learn to be content and grateful for what’s already in your life.

This article will show simple ways to feel content with the way you are.

Ready to discover the secret to real contentment?

Let’s start!

How to Be Content With Yourself

You Are The Expert: Follow yourself!
Fully and Unapologetically Be Yourself
Know That You Are Great Already
What Are You Already Grateful For in Your Life?
How to Practice Gratitude
Therapy
Take Action

Don’t have much time?

Read especially the last parts of this article. It can help you understand why you feel unhappy, even if you’re not sure why.

When you understand this, you won’t waste time being unhappy for seemingly no reason. The word “seemingly” is the crucial word in the last sentence.

You’ll learn what is really stopping you from feeling happy.

Let’s start being more content now.

Be Content With Who You Are!

1. You Are The Expert: Follow Yourself!

Be your own leader.

You know what’s best for you. Nobody but you can know that.

If you get advice, always ask yourself: Does this advice make sense to me in my situation?

Because the information you consume can be brilliant for you at this stage of your life, but for someone else, or even for you five years ago or five years from now, the advice can be harmful.

That’s why I say to follow you!

Think about what you see, feel, and hear, and if it makes sense to you. Because you have to live with the consequences of your actions, nobody else does.

Ultimately, you decide what kind of life you will lead.

That’s why you should view all advice you receive as options; don’t take it as gospel or at face value. Take them as options you can take and as paths you can follow.

Ultimately, decide: Is this good advice for me? And follow yourself!

2. Fully And Unapologetically Be Yourself

Be unapologetic about life.

Do what you want to do.

Do you want to be filthy rich and own an island?

Or do you want to live your life with a regular job?

Go for it! Both are great!

Don’t let others’ opinions hold you back from making your own life decisions. Do you. And go boldly after what you want as long as you do it in an ethical manner.

Get what you want, and don’t say sorry for getting it.

If more people went for what they wanted ethically, the world would be a less frustrated and better place.

Thoroughly and unapologetically be yourself from now on.

Say with me: “From now on, I will be unapologetic about what I want in life!”

And then follow it by taking action!

3. Know That You Are Great Already

You are great, good enough, and deserving already!

Too many institutions and marketing agencies want to tell you that there is something wrong with you. That you are missing something. That you are missing that one piece of information that will make you whole again. That you need to buy this one car, house, or clothing item to feel complete.

But you are complete already! You are perfect already! There is nothing wrong with you!

Nothing!

When you want to change your life, do it out of a feeling like this: “I want to do this for me! It looks like fun!” Don’t do it just because you think you should. Do it because you want to.

You are great already! Always remember that!

4. What Are You Grateful For?

Don’t look at what could be better or different about your life, but at what is great already.

Where are you already winning?

Maybe you are living your dream life without realizing it; why chase something different then?

Ask yourself:

Do you have a remarkable life, but don’t realize it or take time to appreciate it?
When was the last time you were content with what you have and where you are in life?
What can you be grateful for? Is your life great already? What is awesome?
Where are you already winning?

Instead of always looking at what could be better in your life, it’s a great practice to appreciate what is good, great, and perfect already.

That’s where practicing gratitude comes into play.

5. Practice Gratitude

Studies suggest that practicing gratitude has several benefits, including improved sleep, better health, reduced symptoms of illness, increased happiness, stronger relationships, and greater life satisfaction.

If these things are not a good enough incentive to practice gratitude, I don’t know what is?

Here are a few techniques to practice gratitude:

Gratitude Journal

Journal about three things that you are grateful for every day.

Here are a few tips to make your gratitude journal more powerful:

Don’t just go through the motions. Journaling is more effective if you make the conscious decision to become happier and more grateful.
Get personal. Focus on people to whom you are grateful and explain why.
Go for depth over breadth. A superficial list of many things is not as effective as elaborating in detail about a particular thing you are grateful for.

Stop taking things for granted and highlight the positives in your life.

Write A Gratitude Letter

Write a gratitude letter to someone who has done something good for you. Maybe your parents for raising you, or a friend for being by your side in tough times.

Writing a gratitude letter boosts your sense of gratefulness and strengthens your relationships.

Imagine A Different Life

Imagine how your life would be different without the things you currently have.

For example, without your friends, family, children, house, car, electronic gadgets, or food.

Deprive Yourself

Abstain from things that give you pleasure so that they are even more pleasurable next time.

This can be abstaining from your phone, TV, sweets, shopping, video games, social media, or even sex for a day, a couple of days, or even a month to a year.

Sometimes, you might even learn something new about yourself and decide, “I don’t need social media anymore.”

A Few More Gratitude Practices

Include an act of kindness in your life every day.
Walk outside in a park and notice the beauty nature has to offer.
Say “Thank you!” for things your loved ones usually do for you that you take for granted.
Take note when people do a good job and give recognition when it’s due.
Write a card to someone you haven’t seen in a while.
Meditate with your gratitude journal, expressing thanks for all your blessings and good fortune.
Make gratitude a part of your family life and share what you are grateful for with each other during dinner time.

Remember, this is not a call for you to rationalize a bad situation.

Gratitude is not meant as a practice in which you tell yourself that a bad situation is good. Maybe you genuinely need to aim upwards and improve your life. But meanwhile, don’t forget to appreciate what you have.

Perhaps you’re already living your dream life, without realizing it? Be grateful for it.

6. Therapy

You completed all the steps so far and still feel unhappy and discontent? And, maybe you can’t even tell why?

Because your life is actually okay, but still, you feel that something is wrong?

Then maybe you need therapy. And that can be self-therapy or therapy with a therapist.

In my opinion, if you tried to change your life for two years and nothing happened, or you are still unhappy in the same way, then you probably need therapy.

Because it is an indication that something more profound lies underneath your struggles. And I mean an indication, it doesn’t have to be, but the chance is high.

So look at some indicators:

Emotional Neglect.
Narcissistis.
People Pleaser.
ADHD.
Workaholic.
Developmental Delays.

These are just some things to consider.

In general, take a hard look at your life and ask yourself if everything is really great with you and your past. Sometimes we rationalize our upbringing and current situation because we don’t know any better.

If you grew up in a shit family, then you don’t know what a great and loving family feels like. Because you can only know what you experienced. Suppose you have never felt love, then how can you know what it is?

And then, what often happens if you didn’t receive any love when you were a child? You end up in loveless relationships. Because you don’t know it any different, and it feels normal.

If some of the indicators I mentioned above resonate with you, consider therapy. As I mentioned, it can also be self-therapy. There are a lot of good books on emotional neglect, narcissists, people pleasing, ADHD, workaholism, and developmental delays nowadays.

You can send me a message if you’d like some recommendations or would like me to write more about a specific subject.

7. Take Action

Lastly, go after what you want by taking action right now. Nobody will give you your dreams on a silver platter. You have to take them.

And you will only get them by taking action right now!

Follow yourself, be unapologetic about life, know that you are great already, be sold on yourself, practice gratitude, seek therapy, and take action right now!

Action Steps:

It’s All About Being Yourself! No money or reached goal will help you if you are not content with who you are. I don’t believe in gurus or leaders. I believe in you, following you, because only you know what’s right for you. You are the expert of your life! Fully and unapologetically be yourself!
Write down: What can I be grateful for in my life? What is great already? Where am I already excelling, and can I use this knowledge as inspiration to improve in other areas of my life as well? Is your life remarkable already? Do you even need to make any changes at all? Maybe no, maybe you can just be content the way you are!